tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post8830424787758660057..comments2023-11-21T06:27:22.166-08:00Comments on Rediscovering Chennai: Surreal ConversationUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-30086412875218756022012-06-28T05:20:29.227-07:002012-06-28T05:20:29.227-07:00Send Gifts to Chennai with www.giftschennai.com .Y...Send Gifts to Chennai with www.giftschennai.com .You can order online gifts to Chennai delivery with us. Online Shopping of gifts for Chennai delivery is secured and assured with us. We are having local gifts shop at Chennai. Send Birthday gifts to Chennai and Wedding Gifts to Chennai with us.giftschennaihttp://www.giftschennai.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-37380352767869669702011-07-26T08:47:53.036-07:002011-07-26T08:47:53.036-07:00Arundati,
My sister can be that MBA girl! Her MIL ...Arundati,<br />My sister can be that MBA girl! Her MIL would ask them not to close their bedroom door as she had issues that her son would have sex with his wife! Her MIL bitch also poisoned her food when she was pregnant and ended up aborting her baby. My parents went and lodged a complaint with the police, they arrested the MIL and FIL. They still live under the same roof, she is still married to that impotent bastard. But, now, her Inlaws are shit scared. They are not abusing her now. And,yes, she has a baby, but that did not help her in ANY way.<br /><br />DeepaChickoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14130875129454523527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-61297695338575097062011-06-03T11:38:38.120-07:002011-06-03T11:38:38.120-07:00I also know many who have hoped that a kid would c...I also know many who have hoped that a kid would change things like magic. Nothing changes but since they have kids they dont want to break-up. They just live whats left of life for the kids and the society.<br />Life isnt any better for girls who got separated unless they get a very understanding second husbandNiranjanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17201612620960253965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-29230442287621375202011-03-27T17:18:10.381-07:002011-03-27T17:18:10.381-07:00Hi, googled lettuce leaves in chennai read Ur arti...Hi, googled lettuce leaves in chennai read Ur article on Maison de gourmet and ended up here :)<br />A friend of mine went through a similar situation ...was also forced to quit her job just to make her financially dependent. Flash forward =>she did have a baby .,, obv. Didnt help matters and now she can't wait for a divorce!<br /><br />What happened next ???? Did the girl in ur article get a happy ending?<br />Girls ought to mandatorily learn martial arts just to drop-kick the psychos out there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-14771483191772537682010-03-05T11:55:46.198-08:002010-03-05T11:55:46.198-08:00Hi Arundhati, I'm a random visitor to your blo...Hi Arundhati, I'm a random visitor to your blog just as the person who commented before me. <br />Wel, its really really shocking that things like this are endured in middle/upper class social circles... I mean i thought such things exist nowadays only amongst the poorer people.<br />I disagree with your friend about her thinking that it will be alright after they have a kid. A kid is infact a trap into that family. After the kid, the girl wil endure almost anything "for the sake of the child"<br />Although I don't know the girl, my sincere prayers to her!venkat_(n)ever_thinkinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120323076979742949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-83881481194766714052010-02-25T10:18:22.454-08:002010-02-25T10:18:22.454-08:00Hi Arundhati! I came across this blog looking for ...Hi Arundhati! I came across this blog looking for something on Chennai. Nice blog!<br />I am shocked to read this post. I totally blame the girl. One for allowing your parents to give dowry. Two, not having the spunk to stand up against MIL and husband, especially when you are educated. 3. Reporting all this to your old mom?<br />I am sorry that I cannot be more sympathetic. Women need to stand up for themselves. I hope she i able to get out of the situation.Sangeethahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10274946088501464400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-18506012810382051142009-10-30T19:15:42.424-07:002009-10-30T19:15:42.424-07:00Arundathi... ideally speaking, I think you should ...Arundathi... ideally speaking, I think you should report the mother (your friend), and the in laws to the police! The mother deserves to be in jail as much as the in laws! Not only did she commit the crime of GIVING dowry, she is probably even obstructing the reporting of another crime to the authorities. <br /><br />I just hope the MBA girl comes to her senses soon and does something about it... like not let her husband/MIL beat her and if they still do, she could just walk out! even by working in a call center she could easily support herself! and yeah, if she does get back her lost senses, then not only her in laws, but she should give a piece of her mind to her mother!<br /><br />It's because of such in laws and such MOTHERS, that it is so difficult to get rid of ONE social evil!<br /><br />But yeah, all the above said would be right to do only IDEALLY... in reality, nothing will happen... you obviously and very understandably would not want to create any problems for the mother... the mother will continue being the same, probably the in laws too... the girl, listening to her mother, will soon have a child in an attempt to make her life better! But how better can it get really?? Does domestic violence (dowry harassment too) ever end... just by itself... without anyone doing anything about it, apart from brining kids into this brutal situation?Mnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-53743327726091683672009-07-23T00:17:57.779-07:002009-07-23T00:17:57.779-07:00Anonymous - Lots happening but haven't had a c...<b><br />Anonymous - Lots happening but haven't had a chance to post anything! Will do! And thanks for stopping by.<br /></b>Arundathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581276218386317347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-34704822217274990242009-07-16T06:51:55.347-07:002009-07-16T06:51:55.347-07:00Nothing new happening in chennai to write about?
...Nothing new happening in chennai to write about? <br /><br />- Chennaite living abroad, who visits this blog to keep up about stuff happening in ChennaiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-91629486791311004982009-06-24T05:53:58.796-07:002009-06-24T05:53:58.796-07:00Preethi - I agree - educated women need to stand u...<b><br />Preethi - I agree - educated women need to stand up for their rights. But its easier said than done esp in India where societal pressure plays such an important role. <br /></b>Arundathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581276218386317347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-17946288093411693372009-06-22T13:57:01.314-07:002009-06-22T13:57:01.314-07:00I am shocked!! in this day and age?? Whats wrong w...I am shocked!! in this day and age?? Whats wrong with these people.. the girl is educated.. why would she put up with this? and what is the husband doing? I think she is better off living on her own.. having a child would be a big mistake!!Preethihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10943344283863649487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-3654556969020713512009-06-13T06:02:18.252-07:002009-06-13T06:02:18.252-07:00Rathna - I think they live separately because the ...<b><br />Rathna - I think they live separately because the MIL was beating her up. Not completely sure though. <br /><br />Anonymous - I agree. A child will only make things worse, and the poor child will suffer in the end.<br /></b>Arundathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581276218386317347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-61869725384579898792009-06-12T10:18:29.253-07:002009-06-12T10:18:29.253-07:00Oh my God!a baby only makes things worse, though t...Oh my God!a baby only makes things worse, though there isn't a baby yet, I already feel pity for that baby. She needs to get out of that marriage. Today. It is domestic violence and a crime.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-6818469620440973382009-05-28T07:37:59.621-07:002009-05-28T07:37:59.621-07:00Hi Arundathi,
I was actually reading your food bl...Hi Arundathi,<br /><br />I was actually reading your food blog and then landed here and ended up reading your post 'Surreal Conversation'. The particularly large piece of conversation where 'S' describes of 'MIL's techniques like calling her son over phone @7:30, asking him to visit her late at nights made me write this comment. Two points to note - (1) 'MIL' calls her son on phone everyday at 7:30 <br />(2) 'MIL' asks her son to visit late in the nights 'coz she has soem problem. <br />Now a few questions:<br />(1) So, is the 'MIL' & son not living in the same house? <br />(2a)If they are not living in the same house, does 'MIL' visit the son's house to beat up her 'DIL' (Daugher-In-Law) and make her do demeaning things? (2b) If they are in the same house why does 'MIL' have to call her son on phone!!??<br /><br />Maybe you should ask 'S' about it! Just my 2 cents!<br />And btw, your food blogs are great!Rathnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11761679641741583750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-12755688272590115752009-05-14T23:26:00.000-07:002009-05-14T23:26:00.000-07:00Kay - thanks for stopping by. I can imagine there ...<B>Kay - thanks for stopping by. I can imagine there are women all over the world (and maybe some men too?) who are being abused and aren't able to stick up for themselves. I don't think education has anything to do with it. It's values, and inner strength and opportunity and timing and a million other things!<br /></B>Arundathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581276218386317347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-39289583335265295952009-05-14T08:19:00.000-07:002009-05-14T08:19:00.000-07:00It's just sad. :(
And no, this doesn't happen ju...It's just sad. :( <br /><br />And no, this doesn't happen just in India. I do know that in some sections of US women are asked to suck it up and put up with mental and physical abuse. Well educated, financially ok women! <br /><br />As long as a woman doesn't stand up for herself, nothing will lever change.<br /><br />so glad to have found your blog.Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07938245544735604650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-50911363577650233142009-05-10T05:51:00.000-07:002009-05-10T05:51:00.000-07:00Sudhanthira - I find that societal approval lords ...<B>Sudhanthira - I find that societal approval lords over most other objectives, especially in India. And especially with people who live in villages. <br /></B>Arundathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581276218386317347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-31712051067960123032009-05-04T09:48:00.000-07:002009-05-04T09:48:00.000-07:00Anonymous - Yup, a baby doesnt solve bad marriages...<B>Anonymous - Yup, a baby doesnt solve bad marriages. And your friend should definitely be glad to be away from an abusive relationship - nobody deserves that.<br /></B>Arundathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581276218386317347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-88318930604722232142009-05-03T21:32:00.000-07:002009-05-03T21:32:00.000-07:00Hi Arundathi,
Just stumbled onto your blog - what...Hi Arundathi,<br /><br />Just stumbled onto your blog - what a refreshing read!<br /><br />This makes me sad. I know someone who lived overseas, and was abused by her husband. Marriage eventually broke up. To this day, she and her family feel so much shame over it the breakup!! She should be commended for surviving that marriage, not embarrassed.<br /><br />And a baby will fix it???? Create custody issues, more like!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-61450510095602590642009-04-29T23:22:00.000-07:002009-04-29T23:22:00.000-07:00workhard - I guess the woman can't walk out withou...<B>workhard - I guess the woman can't walk out without making sure that there isn't another choice.<br /></B>Arundathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581276218386317347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-8168813342433201142009-04-29T10:22:00.000-07:002009-04-29T10:22:00.000-07:00That is just so sick, it is very surprising to kno...That is just so sick, it is very surprising to know how educated people can bend to that.. the woman should just walk out cause her husband is not man enough to deal with and take care of his wife properly<br /><br /><br /><A HREF="http://www.haiku.com" REL="nofollow"> Haiku Poems </A>workhardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02139837491287164337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-31005076328117093202009-04-28T22:20:00.000-07:002009-04-28T22:20:00.000-07:00Israa - I want to believe that the police will hel...<B>Israa - I want to believe that the police will help but I'm sure the truth varies from one police station to the next. The cynic in me says that the police can be "paid off" or bribed to turn a blind eye. But if we don't have some belief in the police enforcing the law, then what hope do we have?<br /><br />Malar Gandhi - MILs are not always greedy creatures. But yes a majority are. <br /><br />Raaga - LOL!! Change it to his name? What was she smoking?! Any MILs reading this - Let your sons go!!! <br /></B>Arundathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09581276218386317347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-65689451220677082792009-04-28T22:11:00.000-07:002009-04-28T22:11:00.000-07:00Of course I must mention that before I could say a...Of course I must mention that before I could say anything, S shut her up. So that's her bigger issue... son of 30 years, full love for her and all... now suddenly taking wife's side and asking mom to shut up... HUGE issues.Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-50739462485406300302009-04-28T22:10:00.000-07:002009-04-28T22:10:00.000-07:00I'm not surprised... irks me still, but I'm not su...I'm not surprised... irks me still, but I'm not surprised.<br /><br />I bought an apartment when I was 25 and have worked really hard to pay off the loan. When I got married, my MIL actually thought I should sell it... because as a couple we needed the money... and her other idea was that I should make my husband the co owner... or better still transfer the apartment to his name... now why in the world......... who cares... she's the "boy's" mother you see.Raagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14736416344880614248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35192084.post-66977448856816017652009-04-28T06:46:00.000-07:002009-04-28T06:46:00.000-07:00I not shocked at all...it happens everywhere...
T...I not shocked at all...it happens everywhere...<br /><br />Though not beeting part, most of the time..,somthing called home politics/verbal abuse...<br /><br />MIL's are always greedy creatures in this world.Malar Gandhihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16586988066440083113noreply@blogger.com